My Spirit Baby
You are not alone
I am here to support you in healing your relationship with your womb, and acknowledge the loss of miscarriage, abortion, stillbirth, infertility, and or the loss of the dream of motherhood.
Attending to the sorrow, guilt and shame of pregnancy loss will not make it vanish, but it will begin to unearth the heart and the path towards peace, forgiveness and wholeness.
Supporting your journey surrounding your spirit baby, is a way to heal the heart and return to love. Together in community, connection, healing, ceremony and sharing, we can honor your trauma, your womb grief, your motherhood, and your Spirit Baby.
“Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go” ~ Jamie Anderson
We want to hear from you. Please submit your story to add to our blog. Sharing your story helps to heal the loss and support the healing for other women, as they identify they are not alone.
Your loss is important to me
Womb grief deserves sacred
connection, healing and support.
We are not the first women to lose a pregnancy or experience the pain, fear, heartache and loss we have felt. Our stories however, are unique. The feelings of grief are our own personal experience bound up in lost dreams and hopes, crushed with shame and sadness, and often bound with tears, anger, guilt, fear and disbeliefs. Womb grief is real, for every woman who has experienced a miscarriage, still birth, abortion, or infertility. What you feel, and how you feel is absolutely important. I want to honor your grief, support your mourning and offer you support in your healing, as an invitation to guide you through your loss and return to love.
"Loss is the absence of something we were attached to.
Grief is the rope burns left behind, when that which is held, is pulled beyond our grasp"
- Steven Levine
You are worthy of support
Your grief is a measure of your dream, your hope and your love.
Workshops Online & Local
If your schedule is flexible take advantage of a group session, Qi Gong or meditation classes offered online or locally. This is a lovely way to connect with Adria and benefit from her unique services wherever you are.
If these events are not available to you, then let’s have a private session.
If you would like the benefit of having a counseling session with the greatest flexibility, then choose a private session online.
These service offers deep healing presence, intuition, privacy & flexibility. Online sessions are incredibly powerful ways to support you in your struggle, wherever you are.
If you happen to be near one of my clinics at the right time of the year, then join me in either Byron Bay Australia or Victoria Canada for a local clinic experience.
Many clients travel to experience a local session and/or combine these sessions with online sessions for ongoing support.
Healing is not the elimination of pain, or the need to ‘fix’.
Healing is the gentle recovery of love."
Your story is unique
It's ok not to be ok
My Spirit Baby Journey
After my third miscarriage, I was longing to find support that could normalize my loss and help me learn how to grieve and trust in life again.
I found forum posts about women who acknowledged their losses, but rarely spoke to the guilt, the shame and the feelings of failure as a woman I was experiencing.
I found myself in the shadow of my Spirit Babies for years after, and I continue to grieve their absence in the smiling faces of healthy children their same age. At times bitterness would fill my heart, and I sought to find meaning in my life through travel, study, and work. I longed to prove my success to the world as a woman, despite my inability to carry a child so far.
Rather then honor the pregnancy and creation that i did have, I did what most women in the west are encouraged to do. I denied my spirit baby, pushed the grief away and decided, "i should just get over it".
The truth is, we don't always get over it, and for some women the love that is born in the conception of that pregnancy, is a loss we carry our whole lives. So how do we honor this loss rather then deny it? How do we return to wholeness rather then cut off from that part of ourselves?
This question was answered in a series of synchronicity that introduced me to the Mizuko Jizo (water-baby ceremonies). Looking at the power of honoring our Spirit Baby rather then denying the pregnancy has inspired me to specialize as a counselor, create workshops to support women, and facilitate online group support.
My goal is to create a world wide service that can assist women in their healing. I hope to take the uncomfortable experiences of resentment, bitterness, guilt, shame and grief and allow them a place to be met in sessions, group healing, workshops and shared experiences.
I am hoping that by acknowledging womb grief, and opening to honor Your Spirit Baby, we can transform grief, guilt and shame, and invite a return to wholeness, and love.
Adria began her studies in the healing arts over 20 years ago, weaving the philosophies of ancient Chinese Acupressure, Energy Healing, Intuitive Coaching, Counseling and Qi Gong Techniques into her personal life and those of her clients.
Since 2006, Adria has been working as a full time acupressure therapist in Canada and Australia, specializing in inner guidance and coaching techniques, these methods are derived from principles of transpersonal psychology and somatic therapy. Adria has worked extensively with clients moving through physical pain, tension, sexual abuse, grief and loss, depression and relationship change. She currently also teaches self help workshops, Qi Gong and guided meditations to assist students in building awareness and empowerment.
A full list of qualifications include:
BsSc, RTC, Acupressure Therapist and Facilitator, Medical Qi Gong Practitioner-Level, Advanced Psych-K®, Cert Massage, Completed Jin Shin Do® Acupressure teacher training 2010 (although respectfully no longer practicing or registered with the JSD® foundation)
Adria is a Registered Therapeutic Counselor and practitioner registered with ACCT & The International Institute of Complementary Therapies.
My Spirit Baby
Inspired by Mizuko Jizo
My Spirit Baby services have been inspired by the Japanese tradition, Mizuko Kuyo, the water child memorial. This traditional ceremony was practiced is to support those that have had a miscarriage, stillbirth, or abortion. In making an offering to Jizo, a buddhist deity that protects children. The intention of this rite is to support parental grief, comfort the soul of the fetus, ease guilt of an abortion, heal fear and release shame.
In addition to borrowing on ancient, non-denomination ceremonial tools, My Spirit Baby supports the parent in learning how to grieve, normalizing the unspoken and often lonely experience of loss, guilt and shame. In learning to work whit a Jizo statue, healing groups, and one on one support, My Spirit Baby intends to release the taboo of the unborn child, and support you in your healing towards wholeness.